Sex Love & Pain: Jewel Thoughts & Answers

Dear ET6'ers

WOW!!!! What a week? You guys have been nothing short of amazing and I love and appreciate you all. Thank You for the support and love, y'all sure know how to make a girl feel special. *hugs and kisses*


The original plan was for me to post once a week but the response is calling for more, therefore I will be posting on Wednesday to follow up on all questions and comments and new topics will be released on Friday. If necessary I can post more but lets work on this system and see how this works for both of us.


Now that we have gotten all the mushy love and business out the way, lets get dirty.


I must say I love how blunt you all are when you ask your questions, I literally had my jaw drop (get your minds out the gutter lol) a few times when I read some of the questions. So sit down and get ready because its about to get hot in here.
I was inboxed questions through all of the methods of communications. I mean,I had FB messages, texts, emails, bbms and then there were the comments posted here on the blog itself. Shall we begin?


Starting with my love-bugs who posted here....

Question: Why are women leaving there men for women and starting to call themselves gay?

TALK ABOUT LAYING IT ON THICK LOL. THIS IS A VERY GOOD QUESTION HOWEVER THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG ANSWER. THERE ARE NUMEROUS REASONS THAT A GIRL WILL LEAVE HER MAN. RELATIONSHIPS ARE VERY FRAGILE AND IT TAKES ALMOST NOTHING TO SEND THEM FOR A WHIRLWIND IN EITHER DIRECTION. I WILL GIVEYOU MY TOP 3 REASONS AND YOU CAN RESPOND AS TO WHAT YOU THINK IS GOING ON IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND WE CAN EXPLORE IT MORE.


 HEART BREAK. WE WOMEN TAKE A LOT WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE. WOMEN WHO HAVE BEEN WRONGED BY A MAN OR MEN IN THE PAST ALMOST ALWAYS WILL TRY THE GRASS ON THE OTHER SIDE.
THIS IS BECAUSE THE FORM OF HURT AND THE PAIN IS CONNECTED TO THE MALE FIGURE. WHILE YOU MAY HAVE NOT BEEN THE ONE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE HURT YOU ARE A MAND AND BY DEFAULT YOU ARE.


 SOCIETY: BASED ON SOCIETY AND POP CULTURE "WE" HAVE BEEN FLOODED WITH THE IMAGES OF GIRL/GIRL RELATIONSHIPS AND THEY ARE OFTEN ASSOCIATED WITH THE "IN" THING TO DO(MEN/MEN RELATIONSHIPS AS WELL BUT THATS NOT TODAYS TOPIC YET). NOT FOLLOWING WHAT IM SAYING? OK LETS WALK DOWN MEMORY LANE A LITTLE BIT....
1997:ELLEN "COMES OUT" AS GAY ON HER PRIME TIME NATIONALLY SYNDICATED SITCOM.
IN MY OPINION AMERICA WAS FORCED TO PAY ATTENTION TO THE CHANGING TIMES WHEN THIS HAPPENED
IN THE 2000'S MADONNA AND BRITTNEY SPEARS KISS ON LIVE T.V., LADY GAGA CONFUSED EVERYONE LOL, KATY PERRY KISSED A GIRL AND LIKED IT SO MUCH THAT SHE MADE US ALL LIKE IT. THEN EVERYONE FROM NICKI MINAJ TO RIHANNA MADE MENTIONS IN THEIR MUSIC OR OTHERWISE OF THEIR "FANTASIES"
ITS SAD BUT BEING BI OR GAY FOR SOME IS JUST A FAD, SOMETHING TO DO.... ALL BECAUSE SOCIETY SAYS ITS HOT!


 CURIOSITY: THE THOUGHT OF HOW SEXY WOMEN ARE AND THINKING HEY WHAT IF? SOME WOMEN CARRY THIS THOUGHT TO THE GRAVE OTHERS DECIDE AT SOME POINT THAT THEY WANNA ACT ON IT AND..... THEY DO. LET ME SHARE A LITTLE SECRET WITH YOU GUYS. YOURS TRULY YES THE GREAT FANTABULOUS ME, HAS THOUGHT ABOUT IT.... I WILL LET YOU GUYS SPECULATE AS TO WHAT I CHOSE TO DO.... ( INSERT RUMORS HERE LOL) THATS ANOTHER TOPIC FOR ANOTHER DAY....
I HOPE THIS HELPS LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK LETS TALK MORE....

NEXT QUESTION WAS ON LOVE LOST....


LOSING A LOVE IS NEVER EASY AND WHIL IN THE MIDST OF THE SITUATION YOU FEEL LIKE THE WORLD IS ENDING AND LIKE TONI FELT IN HER SONG, YOU WILL NEVER BREATHE AGAIN BUT LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING. I'M A FIRM BELIEVER IN THE FACT THAT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. SO WHEN ITS OVER ITS OVER. YOU GOTTA REMEMBER WHY YOU WALKED AWAY FROM THAT LOVE IN THE FIRST PLACE. EVEN IF YOU MESSED UP AND YOU NOW REALIZE YOU MADE A TERRIBLE MISTAKE, YOU CAN NEVER, NEVER NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER *SMOKEY FROM FRIDAY VOICE* GO BACK! IT WILL NEVER BE THE SAME.
YOU CANNOT MOVE FORWARD IF YOU ARE CONSTANTLY LOOKING BEHIND YOU. ITS UNFAIR TO THE YOUNGLADY YOU ARE WITH NOW, SO IF YOU WANNA LIVE IN THE PAST LET HER GO. NO ONE WANTS TO BE PLAYED WITH.
HOWEVER IF YOU LOVER HER AND WANT TO BE HAPPY CHECK THE BAGS AT THE DOOR AND MOVE FORWARD.... WITH HER

Question: How do I introduce my new girlfriend to my family? I'm not sure they will accept her.

 THE BEST WAY TO INTRODUCE A NEW LOVE TO THE IS OVER DINNER OF COURSE. THIS MAY BE TRICKY BECAUSE IF YOUR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP WAS A LONG ONE AND ONE WHERE THE FAMILY LIKED THE EX, YOU SHOULD READY FOR JUST ABOUT ANYTHING. HAVE YOUR NEW LOVE BE HERSELF, DONT LAY IT ON TOO THICK. MOMS HAVE BUILT IN BULL SH!T DETECTORS. IF YOUR MOM IS ANYTHING LIKE MINE SHE WILL PULL THAT CARD AND EXPOSE THE TRUTH. THERE IS A SILVER LINING THOUGH, YOU HAVE THE LAST WORD ON THIS. IFYOU STAND YOUR GROUND AND YOU LOVE AND WANT TO BE WITH THIS PERSON YOUR FAMILY WILL RESPECT HER AND THATS WHAT MATTERS. SHOOT, IF YOU PLAY YOUR CARDS RIGHT MAYBE YOU CAN ALL GO TO JAMAICA AND PLAY WITH STAR FISH LIKE JIMMY, CHRISSY AND MAMA JONES DID LOL (REALITY TV IS A HOT EFFING MESS)

Question: What do I do when my mate gets jealous for no reason?

BABY, RUN AND RUN FAST. IM KIDDING UNLESS YOU GON' DO IT *NELLY VOICE* OK HERES THE REAL ANSWER. TALK TO HIM/HER LET THEM KNOW HOW THEIR JEALOUSY MAKES YOU FEEL AND WHAT IT MAKES YOU WANNA DO (LEAVE AND CHEAT, THERE I SAID IT SO YOU WON'T HAVE TO) OR YOU CAN SAY "BABY READ THIS" BRING HER TO THE COMPUTER SHOW HER MY BLOG AND POINT TO THIS --------> B!TCH QUIT PLAYING DONT NO BODY WANT AN INSECURE FOOL AROUND, KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE AND WHAT YOUR WORTH AND ACT ACCORDINGLY, 'CUZ IM FINNA LEAVE YO A$$ FOR BEING STUPID!
LOL THIS SHOULD FIX THE ISSUE.

NEXT BABY MAMA DRAMA.....

Question: What do you do when you have kids with your ex and your new girl gets upset when ever the baby mama calls?

THIS IS SIMPLE, WITH ALL THE TECHNOLOGY AROUND TELL THE BABY MAMA TO STOP CALLING AND SEND AN EMAIL OR TEXT OR A FB OR SOMETHING LOLLLLLLLLLL (I CRACKS MYSELF UP)
OK HERES THE REAL DEAL WITH THIS, "BABY MAMAS" GET CRAZY SOMETIMES THEY USE THE KIDS AS PAWNS AND THEY TRY TO MAKE LIFE AS MISERABLE AS POSSIBLE FOR THE NEW GIRL. ITS UNFAIR. ASK YOUR WOMAN HOW SHE FEELS TALK ABOUT IT SEE WHAT SHE HAS TO SAY AND THEN YOU AS THE MAN HANDLE THE "BABY MAMA" LET HER KNOW THAT THERE WILL BE A MUTUAL RESPECT AND THAT THE KIDS COME FIRST ANY THING ELSE WOULD BE UNCIVILIZED. THIS WILL WORK IF YOU ARE DEALING WITH WOMEN. THIS WILL GO SOOOOOO WRONG IF THESE ARE GIRLS. KNOW WHO YOU ARE DELAING WITH AND REMEMBER THE KIDS GET LOST IN THE SHUFFLE IF THIS ISNT FIXED. THE "BABY MAMA" WILL PULL THE WHOLE CUSTODY AND CHILD SUPPORT CARD AND THE NEW WOMAN WILL RESENT THE KIDS DRAWING A WEDGE BETWEEN THE 2 OF YOU. REMEMBER WHO AND WHAT IS IMPORTANT HERE, THE KIDS.

NEXT TOPIC.... IT'S OVER? vs. IS IT OVER?

Question summary: my relationship is pretty much over but I have not said it, Ive moved on but didnt tell her. I love her but im no lonher in love with her How do I tell her?

IM SORRY TO INFORM YOU I DONT HAVE ANY CUTE ANSWERS HERE. YOU HAVE TO TELL HER STRAIGHT UP AND DOWN NO SMOKE SIGNALS, DIVERSIONS OR DECOYS. JUST SAY HOW YOU FEEL. SHE WILL RESPECT YOU MORE FOR THE TRUTH. IF YOU STRING HER ALONG IT WILL END BADLY NO CHANCE AT SAVING ANYTHING. ITS TIME TO MAN UP AND SAY HOW YOU FEEL. NOW GO, YOU HAVE SOME TALKING TO DO. COME BACK INFORM US OF HOW IT WENT. WE WILL BE HERE, I PROMISE.


*SIGH* WOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH THAT WAS A LOT. I STILL HAVE NOT GONE OVER THE TOPICS THAT WERE SENT IN VIA EMAIL OR THROUGH FB. I DIDNT FORGET YOU GUYS. NICKNAMES MIGHT ALSO HELP TO ADDRESS YOU GUYS BETTER TOO. I WILL BE WORKING ON ANOTHER POST FOR TONIGHT. IN THE MEAN WHILE JUST HOLD THIS FOR ME UNTIL LATER.


I LIKE TO LEAVE YOU GUYS ON A POSITIVE NOTE, SO WITH THAT BEING SAID REMEMBER LOVE ISN'T SUPPOSE TO HURT.


XOXO


LOVE,


JEWEL.